Here’s the truth...
I won’t promise you that your little one will immediately listen to everything you ask them to do, because that is not what teaching your child about the Do's and Don'ts of life is about. There's a chance you have been trying to stay calm and kind while setting boundaries, yet you always end up in a power struggle, yelling and demanding to get it done.
Maybe you have been working on yourself to become a confident leader and teacher, but you continue to fall back into demanding everytime your child is not "listening" to you...
You are so self-aware of knowing that your child doesn't know (yet) and wanting to be a confident guide for them, but you have no idea HOW TO set those boundaries without breaking the bond and trust with your little one.
You already know all those parents you come across on the internet or Suzy you see weekly on the playground, who set boundaries with their kids and they are LISTENING?!
Or you see the kids refuse to follow the demand BUT the parent just keep their cool, guiding them through those emotions, without giving in on the boundary.
And chances are that is exactly what you want, isn't it?
The biggest hurdle I see other parents have is not knowing "how to" communicate a boundary - without yelling (because that is their last resort to get their child to do what they want them to). Or they just repeat their request, gently, over and over and OVER again while eventually letting it go.
If you are on this page, reading this right now, chances are you also have no idea what to say.
Giving up on the boundary as well as enforcing it through yelling, bribery, threats or punishment can leave you frustrated and your child powerless.
I get it, because I was there too!
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
- You have no freaking idea what to do when your child screams and yells at you after you tell them "No"
- You rather not set a boundary at all so you don't need to deal with the aftermath
- Bed time is a living nightmare
- You don't want to go to the playground because leaving will leave your child screaming and you in tears
- You feel like the power struggles never end and you are exhausted of explaining "Why"
- You feel so disrespected by your little one not listening to you?
- Kind words don't work on your child so you have to yell.
- The only way to "get" your child to cooperate is through yelling
or maybe you can relate to this
You are dreading the evening, because you know bed time will be a STRUGGLE.
It's time to brush your little ones teeth and they are
just not listening to you.
You repeat yourself, over and over and OVER again, kindly, because you want to be the gentle parent you never had.
You come closer and they run away.
You feel your anger rising.
Ok, one more time,
"If you don't brush your teeth we can not read a book tonight!"-that should do it right?
Nope. It didn't. Let the power struggle begin.
It's a push and pull every.damn.night. and you don't have the capacity to do this anymore.
You feel like you have tried every tip and trick you could find to get your child to comply, but nothing has worked!?
You feel LOST and confused on how to not fall back into the power struggle or how to even start setting boundaries without
ending the night with both you and your child in tears.
Which in turn makes you believe conscious parenting doesn't work
with your child, because they just won't listen to you,
no matter how hard you try to stay calm and kind.
All of these take a toll on you, making you feel like you are failing and resenting your child for disrespecting you everytime you tell them "no" (even when it is a valid reason).
YOU THINK THAT YOUR CHILD JUST WON'T LISTEN BECAUSE THEY ARE DIFFERENT THAN OTHER CHILDREN. YOURS IS WAY HARDER TO "PARENT".
JUST IMAGINE...
- Waking up with knowing that leaving the house- struggle won't affect your entire day
- No matter how hard your child is pushing back on your boundary- you won't lose your shit
- Actually enjoying being a parent more because you set less boundaries
- No more threats... "If you don't get in the car now, I will leave you"
Creating a safe space for your child to express their emotions while continuing to hold the boundary
- No more teeth brushing fights & bed time struggles
- Knowing exactly what to say when it is time to leave, brush their teeth or clean up their room
- Having the tools to show your child how to cooperate because they feel included and not overruled
SETTING A BOUNDARY CAN BE EXHAUSTING IF IT FEELS LIKE A CONSTANT FIGHT.
-BUT IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE-
MY MISSION
Helping parents
guide their child
through life,
like they weren't.
If you were raised being yelled at or punished for misbehaving, you likely have no idea how to not do that to your child. Because it is the only way you know. But really teaching your child the Do's and Dont's of life is really about guiding them rather than forcing them.
Boundaries will help you get your child to cooperate without needing to bribe, threat, punish or yell at them.
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